- When you’re separated or thinking about divorce.
- When you can’t agree about children arrangements
Couples and other family members use family mediation to make arrangements on divorce, separation or relationship breakdown, and issues concerning children which arise during separation, or at a later date.
For ongoing court disputes family mediation provides a different way of resolving seemingly impossible problems.
What’s a mediator?
We describe acting as mediator as a way of smoothing the way, opening the door for the parties to reach their own agreement and to facilitate a solution to problems.
Your mediator is independent, neutral, doesn’t take sides and is there to help two (or more) people who have differences, to find a way forward which is acceptable to both.
We can reality-check ideas with you to make sure they can work, and are likely to last.
Qualified mediators have gone through rigorous training, are regulated, and have hours of additional training every year to maintain and increase their skills and standards.
What does going to mediation mean?
It means that someone is there with you both, to help you find a way forward, without taking sides.
It’s a place for couples to talk over what they would like to agree for their future apart.
You can go to mediation before, during or after separation. It’s not designed to reconcile parties who have decided to separate but it can help improve a difficult relationship and may be especially helpful where there are children.
It’s not always an easy option for a couple and we are trained to help you both through any challenges.
Where and how does it happen?
At our offices in Westminster, London we provide a neutral, comfortable meeting room, where with the help of our excellent mediators, couples discuss and find ways of resolving their problems. Your mediator will be there all the time and usually couples mediate together in the same room.
We have the space for you to take a break away from each other if necessary.
We provide a memorandum or summary after a session, we may send you a list of things to do to help make progress at the next session, and when you are both happy with the outcome, and want to reach an agreement, we provide, a memorandum of proposals for you to sign.
Does the mediator give legal advice?
Our Mediators are qualified solicitors as well as mediators.
When helping couples through mediation your mediator can’t give legal advice, or take sides.
However, as a practicing family lawyer, she has the advantage of being able to give unbiased information about the court process and all options that are available.
They can help you make informed decisions with workable solutions to suit your family and individual needs.
As a solicitor mediator we are able to check whether the proposals are realistic particularly regarding financial settlements where even though you’re not using court proceedings, you may ask a court approve your agreement, to make it water tight for the future.
How long will it take?
- Every couple has different needs.
- Sometimes issues can be resolved in a series of meetings, taking 2 to 3 hours over a several weeks.
- Other times there may be one short or long session over a day.
- Mediation is flexible, there’s nothing set in stone and you go at the pace best suited to your case.
How much does it cost?
- Initial meeting £60 each
- Joint meetings £90 each per hour
- Time spent by the mediator preparing a memorandum or follow up at £90 each per hour
- These charges include VAT.